Hop Against Homophobia/Transphobia! #HAHAT

2014Happy International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia!

The Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia (HAHAT) was created to spread awareness of homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, and to stand together as a writer community against discrimination.

You can continue the hop  HERE!

Oh, and if you get the chance stop by the lovely Jade Crystal’s blog today. She has a wonderful post on Art for Michael!

Hello! Welcome to my little part in this wonderful hop. Have you heard this word before: heteronormativity? This is another new word for me, and one I wish I hadn’t stumbled over:

The body of lifestyle norms that hold that people fall into distinct and complementary genders (man and woman) with natural roles in life. -Wiki

Are you kidding? Is this even a real word? With all the labels people fling at one another, do we really need to make up more of them?

If you’re reading this post, I’m sure you know all about the labels people like to hand out. I’d just like to say, don’t be afraid of them! A label doesn’t define who you are. Usually the people quick to slap labels on you don’t really know you anyway. And most importantly, never let the fear of being labeled as one thing or another keep you from being true to yourself.

That’s not to say that labels can’t hurt, but you can control how you let them affect you. A few years ago it leaked out at work that I’m bisexual. I’m like, ‘Yea, so what?’ My private life is no one’s business. But I was the freak of the week! I live in a very small town. With all the gossip and whispers behind my back, I felt like I was back in high school. I thought I’d left the bullies behind me! (Also thought it probably wasn’t the best time to tell them I also write gay erotic romances!)

There were labels flying left and right. But the difference between the younger me, who used to cringe from mean words and judgments, and the me today is that I no longer hold on to the hurt. I look inside and I like who I see. That allows other people to like me as well.

Keep in mind, I’m painfully, sorrowfully aware that there are circumstances, especially for children and young adults, when it’s dangerous and maybe even life threatening to own certain labels. But I also know there’s a big movement to change that, through support and education.

LGBTQ…more labels! But you know what, this acronym has caught my attention, opened my mind to the diverse and wonderful nature of humans. We’re such beautiful, complex creatures! I’m looking forward to the day when there will be no segregation. We’ll simply all be human beings living together, if not completely at peace, at least with tolerance.
Until then, I think it’s important to acknowledge our differences. The unknown leads to mistrust and fear and hate. If we truly know someone, it’s harder to hate them.

This is probably the main reason I enjoy writing in the m/m erotic romance genre. I’ve met some wonderful people in this writing community who have shared their life journeys. Through them and the research I do for my books, I’m learning that, although we’re all different, love is still love no matter what form it takes.

Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide. – Unknown.

PRIZE TIME! Comment below for a chance to win a $10 ARe Books Gift Card! Don’t forget to leave your contact info. Also, I’d like to leave you with the link to some of my Free stories as a thank you for stopping by.

1BOff Sides

Luke Parsons has been denying who he is all his life despite his loneliness, to please his homophobic father. After all, he graduates in eighteen months and can love anyone he desires after that. But when Austin and Riley join his soccer team, the dark beauties quickly steal Luke’s heart and peace of mind. Suddenly, his father’s approval seems less important. Now Luke has to decide to keep his father’s goodwill or throw everything away on a chance at happiness.

This story was written as a part of the M/M Romance Group’s “Love Has No Boundaries” event. Group members were asked to write a story prompt inspired by a photo of their choice. Authors of the group selected a photo and prompt that spoke to them and wrote a short story.

Download for free from MM Romance Group: Dianne Hartsock – Off Sides

da.touchDamon’s Touch

Damon’s hunger gnaws at him. He needs to feed soon before desire overrides caution and he enters the village.

For Lacey, the sight of Damon drinking from his brother’s throat should repulse him. Instead, he’s oddly aroused. Damon is all his fantasies come true. Lovely and dangerous.

As Damon’s prisoner, Lacey’s love for his beautiful captor grows, but will love be enough to set them both free?

Download for free from ARe: Dianne Hartsock – Damon’s Touch

About diannehartsock

Author of paranormal/suspense, fantasy/adventure, m/m romance and anything else that comes to mind. Oh, and a floral designer.
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38 Responses to Hop Against Homophobia/Transphobia! #HAHAT

  1. Elin Gregory says:

    Beautiful video 🙂

  2. This is very moving for me. Just lost my sister who was a lesbian. I miss her so much. No matter what people said to her about being with someone of the same sex she proudly held her head up. She was a great inspiration to all of us. This is a wonderful blog post and hop ❤

  3. parisfanca says:

    great blog post. Totally agree with it.


  4. machurch00 says:

    “Be who you are” Words to live by. 🙂 Wonderful post. Thanks for the giveaway. 🙂
    nomoretears00 @ hotmail.com

  5. Trix says:

    “So what” is such an empowering phrase, and I hope someday everybody says it!


  6. H.B. says:

    Thank you for the video and great post.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

  7. Erica Pike says:

    Great post, Dianne 🙂 I also live in a small town, so I know what it’s like :/ Everybody’s noses in your business and all…

    Thanks for taking part in the hop!

  8. lenagrey says:

    I almost went blind searching for the ‘comments’! I enjoyed the song, Diane. It’s very inspiring. It is a shame that people ‘label’ others without really knowing them. It’s their loss though because the person you snub, could be someone special.

  9. Lee Todd says:

    great video…loved the post too 🙂


  10. Lisa G says:

    Great message – my daughter first mentioned heteronormativity to me and I needed her to explain it. She has taught me a lot about the use of labels. Love her so much!!

  11. Wendy H says:

    Thanks for participating and for the chance to enter! wendynjason04@gmail.com

  12. Cindy says:

    Thank you for participating in this fabulous HOP. Learned a new word and found some interesting reads – Thanks

  13. Thanks for your post on labels and for the chance to enter. caddyauthor(at)gmail(dot)com

  14. Great post, Dianne!

    Thanks for hopping along!

  15. Shirley Ann Speakman says:

    Great post why do people have to label everything we are all just human no need for any other label.

  16. marcthf says:

    Loved the video and had to share it 🙂 It is sad that people make such a big deal about your PRIVATE life. I sometimes want to ask people when exactly they decided to be straight and would they like to do in bed and all the private things I get routinely asked. Now I don’t mind to talk openly about sex to friends and discuss it, because it is a fun subject and I am not ashamed of who I am, but I find it very weird how some ppl just assume they have the right to my most private moments…

  17. Ray says:

    I loved your quotation: “love is still love no matter what form it takes”. It’s so true. I am trying to download your free story too . It sounds good.

  18. Robin Lucero says:

    I love the message you are passing on to others. My best friend was gay. I loved him very much. I lost him to cancer years ago. He was the godfather to my children. I very recently found out that my oldest daughter is bi. This doesn’t make me love her any less. Be true to your self and know that there are people out there that care and love you. Thank you for what you are doing.

  19. Great post. It’s like Oscar Wilde said: “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

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  21. Rissa says:

    Fantastic Post! Thanks for being a part of the hop 🙂

  22. rojoroaors says:

    Never heard the word before but as I am a gay man who hates the word normal or natural when describing a person’s sexuality this word, if it is a word, makes me cringe. Thanks for being a part of the hop.

  23. michelle says:

    Great post and video. Thanks for the giveaway.


  24. suze294 says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts Diane”

    Littlesuze at hotmail dot com

  25. Shayla says:

    Awesome post. I wasn’t aware of this video. Thanks for sharing.


  26. Juliana says:

    Thank you so much for your great post!
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

  27. Penumbra says:

    This is my favorite hop. Thanks for participating 🙂


  28. Jen CW says:

    Great post and video. Thank ypu for sharing them and for the giveaway and free book!


  29. Ryan Field says:

    I really love this post. I have to admit that I use heteronormative sometimes (or heteronormativity) as a word/label because I’m always so worried about offending someone. I always figure it’s kind of a text book term and I’m safe with it. But I really do agree with you about labels and I don’t ever take them personally myself. Especially if I know the intention is harmless. I also use LGBTI sometimes in blog posts. The I stands for intersexed. And even that bothers me sometimes because I feel like I’m labeling and that’s not the intention.

    In any event, great post.

  30. karihiga says:

    Thank you for this post. I understand labels but we do need to look beyond that and see the person inside. The difference in all of us is what makes the world a beautiful place.. ❤️

  31. Great post and people should be who and what they want

  32. KimberlyFDR says:

    Thanks for taking part in the hop!


  33. Cornelia says:

    Thanks for post and hop

  34. sherry1969 says:

    Loved the post and both of your stories.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

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